“Ally is a Verb” – Allyship in the Workplace

The Presidential Management Alumni Association hosted noted experts on allyship, Eddie Turner and Danielle Carnes, at the May 2021 Couchella. Eddie Turner is an internationally known coach and motivational speaker on diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) topics. Danielle Carnes pioneered greater awareness of LGBTQ rights at the USAID by founding a DEI employee resources group.

Eddie started the conversation by explaining how he uses coaching to help people create self-awareness of others’ differences. “Ally is a verb,” stated Eddie. He explained that allyship is not being neutral, but about “looking out for other people.” He encouraged participants to be active in speaking out when they see others being harmed by prejudice, even when they see unintentional actions or microaggressions. “Proximity to others expands our lens so that we can better see how our actions and the actions of others can harm others,” Eddie advised.

Danielle talked about their experiences in creating the employee resources group. “Learning is uncomfortable,” they said. However, everyone needs to act in building an inclusive community. Danielle then described the three steps that people can take to become better allies.

First, allies start by learning what the community needs. Second, allies should advocate for the people not in the room. Third, allies must realize that they will make mistakes but not let the mistakes stop them. Allies should do their homework and strive to be better.

Danielle talked about why people should care about DEI issues. “It is extremely stressful to pretend that you are something you are not every day. It is important to let people be who they are.” Eddie agreed and said that the best thing allies could do is not judge and model the moral leadership needed to promote acceptance.

Danielle gave a piece of final advice for allies. “Check in with your community before intervening. Calling out bad behavior is not always the solution.” Eddie advised that allies consider the context, and the most valuable lessons are taught at the right moment. Allyship can be challenging, but it is well worth building a diverse, equitable, and inclusive society in the Federal government.